The Right to Be Unfinished
The Right to Be Unfinished
Why respecting adolescence is essential to helping young people become capable adults
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There is an old story about a patron who commissioned a great artist to draw a canary.
Months passed, then years, and still the artist did not deliver. Finally, the patron arrived at the studio in a rage and demanded the promised work.
The artist took out a sheet of paper and, in a few quick strokes, produced a magnificent canary.
The patron was astonished—and furious. If the drawing was so easily made, why had he been forced to wait so long?
The artist opened a nearby cabinet. Thousands of imperfect canaries spilled onto the floor.
We want young people to produce the final canary without allowing them the thousand rough drafts.
We expect sound judgment before they have been permitted to choose badly. We expect emotional regulation before they have experienced powerful emotions. We expect independence after organizing nearly every hour of their lives. We demand adult capacities while denying children the...




